There is this tendency among a lot of people..they want to argue or pick a fight or criticize or abuse (and it gets too much when the f word is used esp by youth). May Allah Guide them. It could be related to politics,religion,relationships and anything else. May Allah Guide them. Ameen
My focus is on whether to react and how to react. The answer lies in the video I watched and shared by Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan. And believe me,it has helped a great deal,Alhamdulillah.
The verse in the Quran :
“And when the foolish address them (with bad words) they reply back with ‘Salamaa’ (peaceful words of gentleness).” (Qur’an, 25:63)
Ustadh Nouman explains that when such people address you,be calm and say Salam. He shared 2 incidents. One when he was in a meeting with a masjid committee and an Arab man came and questioned him that he teaches Arabic ! The man gave him a napkin and told him to write the alphabets and he wrote english alphabets lol. That same night in the masjid,he was asked to give a talk on importance of Arabic and that Arab brother was seated in the first row !
Second,when he was in itekaf and he was sleeping and an elderly man kicked him in the stomach,he got up and instead of saying something,he later chatted with him and recited the Quran in front of him.
Ustadh Nouman said even when you are right and there is an argument or someone is angry or abuses- say Salam very calmly even if its not your mistake. “Ok,that was my fault,sorry.”
We should behave in a similar manner with parents,kids,spouse. Be the first one to calm down and make peace.
Also,when people try to hurt us by using harsh words,reply in a way that will take the other person by surprise as they might not have expected you to be that calm.
Be calm. Be good to all. That would be excellent dawah and that is Islam.
May Allah help us to remember that when we deal with people, our transactions are actually with Him and not His creation. As such, may awareness of His presence (ihsan) bring goodness from our speech and character during times of difficulty as well as ease.Ameen.