Nikah is a contract that transfers responsibilities. Therefore know the man you’re thinking of marrying, and be sure that he is able to take care of you, more than your dad did. Islam empowers women with honour and dignity. Don’t settle for anything less.”
A Quote By
Nouman Ali Khan
To my daughters and sisters: Don’t fall for his words, fall for his actions.”
A Quote By
Fwd from a sister :
🔅When my father proposed to my mother… He dedicated Surah Al-Imran, which he memorized of heart, as her “Mahr” (dowry)
🔅And when my husband proposed to me, my father told him that he would have to memorize a surah of the Quran as my mahr.. The wedding will not go on unless i’v received my mahr
I was asked to pick one of the surahs… I chose Surah Al-Noor… For all the laws that Surah contained within it and for the fact that it seemed hard to memorize on my behalf.
🔅And before our wedding day; aside of being busy preparing for our “Newly wedded Nest”… The Quran wouldn’t leave my husband’s hand an entire month as he was memorizing the surah…
🔅A few day before our wedding day, my husband came to recite to my father the surah which he had completed.
My father told him every time u make a mistake, u would have to start from the beginning all over again :))
🔅My husband began reciting surah Al-Noor with his calm/gentle voice in such a “beautiful” scene which I will never forget. My mother and I would look at one another and would smile awaiting my husband to make a mistake so he would have to start all over again and by that increase my “Reward”…
But my husband – May Allah bless him – had memorized the surah off heart and didn’t even forget one single verse of it.
Once he finished my father hugged him and said to him: “Today I shall marry my daughter to u for u have fulfilled her mahr.. and your pledge to me..”
He didn’t pay me a financial mahr… And we didn’t buy gold worth tens of thousands…
He sufficed me with Allah’s words as an oath/contract between us…
🔅I wonder what Surah my daughter will chose as her mahr in the future?
🔅Subhan’Allah,such a wonderful example.
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And the cure for this deadly illness (i.e. love before marriage) is for the person that is afflicted to realize that this love is only due to his/her own delusions and ignorance.
So upon such a person is to first and foremost strengthen their Tawheed and reliance upon Allaah, and secondly to increase in worship and busy themselves with it, so much so that they do not have any spare time letting their minds wander and think about their beloved.
And they should call upon Allaah to protect them and save them from this evil, just as Prophet Yusuf called upon Allaah and he was saved. And they should do as he did, be as he was, in terms of ikhlaas (sincerity) and remembering Allaah in abundance.
This is because if the heart is filled with ikhlaas for the sake of Allaah, there will be no space left for any unlawful love to be present, rather this only happens to a heart that is empty and has no ikhlaas whatsoever.
And let such people remind themselves that whatever Allaah has decreed for them is only in their own best interests, and when Allaah commands something it is never to cause harm or misery to His slaves.
And let them also remind themselves that their unlawful love does not benefit them, neither in this world or the hereafter! As for this world then they will be so preoccupied with their love that it will cripple them and will cause them to live in a fantasy world. And as for the hereafter then it will cause them to be preoccupied with the love of the creation instead of love for the Creator!
These people need to be reminded, that the one who is emerged in something will never see its ill effects, neither will the person who has never experienced such things. The only people who will be able to relate to them are those who have experienced the same thing but have been saved. Such people can look back and realize how evil it is.”
A Quote By
Ibn Qayyim Al-Jawziyyah
“In Islam it is haram to force your child to marry whom you want, as a parent. In fact, it is a great sin.”
–Mufti Ismail Menk–